tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38764987.post683301081290210375..comments2023-07-15T04:20:16.543-05:00Comments on Almost Diamonds: Hypocrisy Part IIStephanie Zvanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15182490110208080002noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38764987.post-67493449991220222212010-07-08T23:32:50.656-05:002010-07-08T23:32:50.656-05:00These posts are as nuanced and clear as your best ...These posts are as nuanced and clear as your best stuff, Stephanie. <br /><br />When I see your reactions on a thread of contention, I always have to stop skim-scrolling. From speaking with you and reading your work, I know you're an intelligent, articulate person with possibly many viewpoints I have in common, but I have to stop skim-scrolling to check what you're going to say. I'm never sure which way you'll go.<br /> <br />You're one of the least "tribal" people I've encountered online.Glendon Mellowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03582347493421110738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38764987.post-57682559772462967302010-07-08T18:13:49.639-05:002010-07-08T18:13:49.639-05:00What I've had to grapple with (and perhaps Zus...<i>What I've had to grapple with (and perhaps Zuska has, as well) is 'what degree of a show of loyalty/defense from attack can I expect from this person if they are my friend'? </i><br /><br />Are we distinguishing between "friend" and "ally?"<br /><br />Maybe I'm just a cold SOB, but I don't get the relevance of "friend." I work pretty hard at staying out of outright pissing contests, mostly because I figure everyone can get along without me. I have to admit that all to often the question of "right" just vanishes in the "them" and "us" aspects. I'll pass on those.<br /><br />If it's anything remotely about truth, though, the chips can scatter themselves among the sawdust.<br /><br />Assuming that I even have enough credibility to make a difference (doubtful) about the most difference that "friend" makes is that I may just bail rather than defend someone I dislike even when they seem to be taking unjustified abuse. Ain't proud of it, but there you are.D. C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06515125525097163604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38764987.post-87218980254946780952010-07-08T15:25:14.092-05:002010-07-08T15:25:14.092-05:00Becca, I think we all have to deal with that. I wi...Becca, I think we all have to deal with that. I wish there were an easy answer. I generally try to take risks, but that can break down under stress.Stephanie Zvanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15182490110208080002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38764987.post-79534260077488446862010-07-08T13:17:45.624-05:002010-07-08T13:17:45.624-05:00Becca, is this for a friend with whom you have pr...Becca, is this for a friend with whom you have private communication on a regular basis? If so, then I'd expect one would form reasonably accurate expectations from the private negotiations that happen in friendships. Otherwise, things are kind of up for grabs, and very much open to error and mayhem.Greg Ladenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04857616630819182647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38764987.post-64229185320440934902010-07-08T10:56:16.503-05:002010-07-08T10:56:16.503-05:00Hmm. My ideolectic gut feely notion of "hypoc...Hmm. My ideolectic gut feely notion of "hypocrisy" seems quite sloppy now. <br /><br />However, it raises another question. <br />What I've had to grapple with (and perhaps Zuska has, as well) is 'what degree of a show of loyalty/defense from attack can I expect from this person if they are my friend'?Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356974556397009124noreply@blogger.com