Having been mostly away from the internet for the last couple of weeks, I'm late to the party as usual, but I still think there's something that needs to be said about the reception that Sheril of The Intersection received at Discover Blogs. Well, not so much about the reception itself. Sheril said just about everything that needed to be said about that. Scicurious's take on the incident is well worth reading, as well, as is DrugMonkey's commentary on why this should and does matter to men too.
So after all that, and everything else that's been said, what's left to talk about? Maybe the fact that every single time a discussion like this occurs, someone wants to know when compliments are appropriate. Sure, the temptation is there to dismiss the questions as distractions from the discussion at hand, but it is a real question for many people. Some of those comments are honest cris de coeur. And the conflicting responses, plus the occasional "never outside a relationship" aren't helpful.
The real answer is both blindingly simple and incredibly difficult in practice: it's negotiable.
Head on over to Quiche Moraine to see me opine on the subject and to find out when and why I repeatedly told a coworker that he was hot.